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I met him online. I'm sure you've all seen the commercials. We're an Eharmony Success Story. I never imagined that I would meet The One online. I always thought in the book store on the 'Self Help' or 'Cookbook' aisle. Maybe at the gas station trying to change a flat tire. A fender bender in rush hour traffic, or even at some sort of seminar. I have met people online before, it's never been too big of a deal for me. But I just never explored the possibilities of what if, when if really happened. So, here I am now, after a series of compatibility questions and matching, in love with The One. One of the pluses to how we met is that before we were even able to send an email to one another, we were given the opportunity to get to know one another. Sounds strange I know. But at least through this site, we are forced to ask and answer questions, share our needs and desires, the things we can't live with and can't live without. We were able to determine if we wanted to move forward or if we thought it was in our both interests to just move on. So, by the time we were able to communicate via email, I already had this build up of anticipation that he did not disappoint. I 'clicked' instantly with him. The chemistry was thick. It wasn't sexual, it wasn't emotional, it was more of like, comfortable. No tension, no masks, no questions. Just normal, with sprinkles of excitement, curiosity, and pinches (to make sure I was really awake). We haven't known each other long, just all of our lives. He's waited for me, I've waited for him. I'm just glad that I recognized him when he came along.

The One is a Captain in the military, currently stationed near Mosul, Iraq. He's a year younger than I (I can't seem to break that younger man trend). He has a soon to be four year old daughter. He is from the Atlanta, Georgia area. Went to school at West Point and is currently stationed in Fort Bliss, El Paso, Texas. He returns home in February. He has a gentle voice that always makes me want to hold on to him. I can't imagine him at all raising his voice at anyone. He has what I imagine is a silent temper. And I believe that he rarely loses it. I don't hear him laugh often. Something I wish were different and will work on when he returns home. I love the way he says my name. I love the way he sounds when he's excited about something, or passionate about something, or excited and passionate with me. I love his words. I love that he understands the value that I put in words. Physically, I wish he were a bit taller. Nothing I'm not used to though. I love his skin tone, can't wait to see our bodies blend into combined color. I love his size. I love the shape of his eyes. I love his lips and how masculine he is. I love how expressive he is. How he assures me with just his presence. He moves me with a simple, 'hi.' I'm so happy!!!!

So, here's OUR plan. You know, I'll share more about how this guy romances me later, but, what really gets me about us is that he participates. Or maybe it's me that's participating because he initializes a lot, and I just give my input. I LOVE that about us. I don't have to be the problem solver, the solution maker, the go out and make it happen person. I don't have to be afraid to present him with what I want in fear of rejection. If I call him up and say, how about this or that, the response most likely will be somewhere between, "Sure, babe, whatever you want." or "That's a good idea." or some little input of, "How about we do this..." and it's always an improvement, never a rejection. It feels good to complete his thoughts before he reveals them. To hear a song play on the radio that reminds me of him and then hear my phone ring and know that it's him on the other line. It feels good to know that I'm needed, but not necessarily depended on. To know that he can and will take care of me, if and when I need him to. Knowing that he supports me, and will be my cheerleader as I begin to achieve my personal goals in life. Okay, off track here a bit, but it happens when I think of him often. So, Our Plan...

He returns home in February. We'll spend a few days together in Texas and head to Atlanta to meet his family. Punky Brewster will meet us there along with his best friend. My answer's Yes! We'll head back to Dallas to meet my family, and then back to Houston to pack a few things, and on to El Paso. Yeah, I'm leaving. Munchkin will finish out the school year in Houston with Lil sis and her dad, and then she'll go to Dallas for the summer, as usual. Then she will come with us, where ever he is stationed at (depends on what he wants to do with his career). Our official Wedding Ceremony will be in May of 2008, Memorial Day Weekend and if necessary we will push it to September, Labor Day Weekend. When we move to El Paso in 07, I plan to finish school. Really concentrate and finish up. He's very supportive of me going full time. I think it's important to him too. Which only furthers my determination. I'm nearly done. If I do it right, I can be finished soon. I'm hoping to keep the Munchkin in a Montessori school and he knows how important that is to me. I'm so excited about this. It is amazing how good it feels to hear him whisper, "I love you..." and think, Oh My God, that's more than just my man, that's my fiance, that's my future husband, that's my soulmate. I am so thrilled to be by his side. And whatever it takes to support him, so long as he is safe, I will do. He gives me time and space. Sometimes he holds back in order to allow me to make my own decisions even if he fears the consequence of me making the wrong choice. I love how selfless he is in that regard. But I wish he were more firm with his true desires. Whatever he wants and needs, I'm going to provide, he just has to verbalize it. He tells me how he feels, without making any requests or setting any hard expectations. But I sense he will put his final say on something when he has to, and I respect that. He knows how to pick his battles, I suppose. He calms me, soothes me, relaxes me. He's attentive, concerned, and caring. He's proactive, romantic, and spontaneous. We share our differences and our similarities, and I look forward to the friendly and harmless debates we will encounter. He has an interest in pursuing politics. Great huh? Yeah, I took off the revealing pics from myspace, you just never know right? The issue with politics is that we are on opposite ends of the spectrum. I know can you believe it. As passionate as I am about politics, I'm more passionate about him and supporting him and his beliefs, and I'm open to adopting some of them myself. Conservative, but realistic, is how I'll leave him for now. When he gets all out of line I'll snap him back into place...he he he. And it breaks me down to admit it, he voted for Bush....Twice....Twice! Okay, going to hide now... This has too many Mr and Mrs Punky Brewster similarities.

So, in a nutshell. He's the greatest!!! Attractive, educated, giving, and he loves me! I'm marrying him soon...SOON...Our wedding will not officially be until Summer of 2008 because we both love warm weather and because he has too many training scheduling conflicts in the Summer of 2007. I am moving with him to where ever his military career takes him. I even begin taking Birth Control (I want him to myself for a while) in January in order to be prepared for him when he comes home because, we're on a countdown on when he'll return, and anticipation is building.